Here are some thoughts on a few main types of intelligence relevant to relationships and how you can apply them to your unique experiences in dating—regardless of your gender, sexual orientation, or relationship goals.I recently went on a date with a guy who called himself a scientist. On one side, you get a brilliant, stimulating mind, which really turns you on… Before I forget, there was one other thing I wanted you to consider: Very smart. Sounds like the price you pay for dating a great conversationalist is pretty steep, huh? You’d make adjustments if you alienated your co-workers and wanted to feel better from 9-5 every day. And a big reason you struggle to connect with men is because you’re so bright. Like many of you, I’m a bit of an intellectual snob. Now before you decide that you hate me, I’d like you to consider two things: First, does that description remind you of any of the men you’ve dated in the past? On the other you get a narcissistic, difficult, self-obsessed, coldly logical man who is much more concerned with ideas than feelings, and much more concerned with himself than with you.

I've been co-hosting young alumni events for name-brand schools for long enough to know that these kids come out a little lopsided (which sounds so much better than "socially awkward," don't you think? All they need is a little tune up, or a little dating textbook like The Tao of Dating for Women or The Tao of Dating for Men, to get them going -- plus a little practice.

First, we’re not really meant to notice these kind of gender imbalances—unless we’re lodging a grievance against “discrimination.” Second, at its heart it is about, well, matters of the heart—always a sensitive topic and one that many people cringe at exploring intellectually.

Third, it’s about sex—something a lot of people are understandably uncomfortable talking about in public.

The ladies at The brought the subject up in a recent survey asking ten different men why so many smart men date “dumb girls.” I was one of the respondents.

Now Nicole Lapin, my colleague here at CNBC, has tried to explain why smart women want to date smart men. The Gloss wanted to know why smart men were dating less intelligent women, while Lapin wrote about why smart women date smart men.