Don’t key his car, kidnap his cat, or destroy his stuff. Maybe you’d just rather be in a bad relationship than be in no relationship at all. Learn what you can from the relationship that just ended and move forward. Be thankful that the wrong relationship ended to free you up for the right one.
And never, ever do something that could land you in legal trouble. There will be times when it’s important to communicate with an ex. Maybe you have to deal with a shared lease or pet custody. Instead of clinging to lost hope, find a wise friend who can help you walk through the reasons why you’re having a hard time letting go. Deep down, you know that you don’t want to be in a relationship with someone you had to beg to be with you. Take some time to refocus and pursue the things you’ve always loved to do.
You don’t have to sob at the office, but take some quiet moments to reflect and be honest with yourself. It’s healthier to express yourself honestly than grow numb.
The temptation may be to pretend you’re unaffected by the breakup; don’t let pride get in the way of being real.
For practical purposes, though, we can divide this into two groups: the vulnerable narcissist and the grandiose narcissist.
All narcissists are self-absorbed, see themselves as superior, and lack empathy.
All display arrogance and disdain toward others, experience "narcissistic injuries" when others don't treat them as superior, and can't take direct feedback about their behavior.
” Sooner rather than later he starts to resent walking on eggshells around his lover.
(If you share the lease, deal with it like responsible adults. Resist the urge, however, to call or text whenever you would have when you were still dating. Ask a close friend if you can call him/her every time you would usually reach out to your ex. Besides, if your ex rejects you a second time, it won’t just hurt; the rejection will sting with extra humiliation and regret. No woman on her deathbed says, “I really wish I slept with my ex-husband one last time.” Let the break be clean.
Don’t lock him out.) The thrill of revenge only feeds bitterness and hatred. Recruit a support system of friends and family to help you fill the time normally spent with a significant other. Social media can be dangerous when dealing with heartache.
Remember the childhood adage that was supposed to make us feel better when we were bullied?
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.